3 Easy Ways to Improve Any Relationship

So often in life we struggle with having harmony in our relationships.  More than once I have found myself arguing with people only to realize later how unnecessary the argument truly was. I found myself getting defensive, irritated, assuming the worst about other people’s intentions towards me. I was creating an enemy out people who probably were only trying to help me solve a common problem, or do the best they could under the circumstances. Unfortunately, I let my fear get the best of me and I didn’t take the time to see the bigger picture. These situations happen in every kind of environment, at work, with friends, loved ones, and even strangers.  So I began to ask myself how to avoid the stress of these types of relationship difficulties, because I found they were creating stress, tension, and unhappiness in my life. I came up with the following answers I would like to share with you. Also, as I am always looking for more ways to improve my relationships I would love to hear your ideas in the comments below. 1. Try to Understand Where the Other Person is Coming From This is one of the best ways to … Continue reading

How to Overcome Your Fear of Failure and Face It Head On

So many times in life we are afraid to try something new, go after what we really want, and expose ourselves to failure and rejection. So often we find ourselves plagued by fear and afraid to put ourselves out there.  Lately, I have been confronting this issue.  I have been in the process of launching a new endeavor and find that as I put myself out into the world in a new way, old thoughts creep in. Up until recently I have been a theatre director and so at times like these I tend to reach for theatre analogies.  The whole process of creating something and then sending it out into the world is familiar to me.  This experience reminds me of opening night.  Prior to opening night I have been creating in a cocoon, my struggles have been behind the sacred walls of the rehearsal room.  It hasn’t been easy, sometimes it has been messy, sometimes miraculous, but through it all it has been shielded from outside eyes.  Finally opening night comes and it is time to draw back the curtain. As I sit at the back of the darkened theatre I wait desperately for that first laugh, a … Continue reading

The Power of Laziness

Did you know that giving in to your lazy side is sometimes the most productive thing you can do? Have you ever found yourself stuck and unable to move forward? I have. Lately I’ve been in a rut and struggling to get out if it.  I went from being completely motivated to not wanting to do anything at all.  I don’t like this feeling.  I enjoy when I am filled with passionate purpose and a sense of direction and drive, but sometimes we all need what my Alexander teacher called a “good old slump”.  The Alexander Technique is a movement technique that teaches performers how to have good physical alignment.  The premise is that we are born with a sense of natural alignment, but over time our body develops habits that create obstacles to our alignment.  To correct this we have to first notice our habit, then take a minute to pause so we can redirect our body to go into better alignment.  This is a process that continues over and over again all day.  But sometimes we need a break and that is when we take our “good old slump.”  The idea is to remind us that we are … Continue reading